Looking back on 2015, in my life and in the universe of my family and friends; this year, brought many ups and downs. There were lots of smiles, laughs, love, joy, and celebrations, but there was also death, disease, lawsuits, and more. I realize I have a decision to make. What do I want to talk about and let control my life? Like it or not, it seems this is life; with all its ups and downs. In my search for connection and in the pursuit of happiness, I am finally learning that focusing on the good is a great place to start.
I recently picked up the Tony Robbins book Unlimited Power. Written in the 80’s, this is still a very compelling book with many positive and motivational insights. One quote that stands out from everything is, “The quality of our lives is determined not by what happens to us, but rather what we do with what happens’. I have to keep repeating this to myself. I get the meaning of this but why do I keep forgetting and have to remind myself?
I have recently been diagnosed with a medical challenge. This I will overcome (subject of a future blog). Rather than letting this control my life, here is what I celebrate of 2015.
First, in January, I took over as the head of Move Tallahassee; a walking group with 1,200+ people registered for email notifications. When the previous editor of the Newspaper, Bob Gabordi, transferred; he asked me to take over the lead. I agreed. A few hours later, it sunk in and I thought, “What was I thinking?” Now, in addition to running my business, now I have to plot and organize these biweekly walks? As it turns out, this has not been a burden at all. In fact this has turned into a great joy, having met hundreds of people from all walks of life. Seeing everyone walking and talking with others they might not meet otherwise, has been a great reward. I also now have Megan from the Florida Health Department bringing much needed support.
This year I lost some people who played a major role in my life. While I grieve and try to celebrate their lives, I want to rejoice with the meaningful moments like:
Walking in the Rain – This year I finally learned to chill out and go for walks in the rain with my wife Morgan. Finally losing the worry about what others would think; this actually brought about memories of my childhood; playing in the rain.
Rather than letting a lawsuit without merit being the focus of my being, I want to talk about:
Running with the Peeps – After planning to try to run the Springtime Tallahassee race, my granddaughters and friends (5, 6, 7 and 14) unexpectedly asked me to run with them. My first reaction was “Oh No; this won’t work” but it turned into a three mile magical journey that only the small children can bring to the table. It was one of my best moments of 2015.
There were business challenges in 2015 but let me tell you about:
Walking with the Peeps in the Rain – If I thought walking in the rain was really cool; nothing prepared me for walking in the rain with the peeps. Wow! This was living life.
Rather than letting all the problems of the world like ISIS, wars and gun violence control my quest for living life to its fullest, I want to be especially thankful for my spiritual transformation and connection to God. This year, I was finally able to write and talk about this subject. Yikes! Being dragged kicking and screaming to spirituality was not such a bad thing. I am especially thankful to wife Morgan who set the catalyst for this journey.
One thing for certain, like death and taxes, 2016 will bring its ups and down. I have to keep reminding myself, how I react to these events will set the tone for a fulfilling life.
So grab a family member, friend or go solo, go for a walk and think about shifting your thinking. How you plan to react to events in 2016? What will you talk about; the Ups or the Downs? This is your life; celebrate.